Tips on dating a widower
(If you just click on the title, you can read Amazon’s description and reviews.) Julie was the girlfriend and is now the wife of a widower (a “GOW” and now a “WOW,” in her words), and she has much experience, wisdom and advice to offer people in a position such as yours.When I discovered Julie’s work some years ago, I was so taken with her experience, wisdom and candor that I ordered a copy of her book, and I think it is by far one of the best I’ve read on the subject.Failure to understand and accept those different ways of grieving can result in hurt feelings and conflict between partners during a very difficult time.
That’s why learning about normal grief and talking with trusted others about one’s experiences in grief can be so helpful.
See, for example, my articles, Grief: Understanding The Process, and How We Mourn: Understanding Our Differences.
] Widowers are survivors, and as such, most come through the grief process much stronger, more resilient, and embrace life with more gusto.
Those are big changes for any person, but it would appear that for the widower, this growth is marked not by the passage of time but by how he handles the cards that are dealt to him.
~ Julie Donner Andersen I’m at the very beginning of a potential relationship with a guy who I’ve reconnected with after many years (we knew each other in high school).